Did you know that by adopting certain codes of conduct or habits, you can actually re-design your lifestyle and unleash freedom?
Yes, you read that right! Your habits have the magical power to transform your lifestyle and you can live the life you want – a lifestyle of freedom and abundance.
If you’re reading this blogpost, then it seems you are at crossroads or stuck on your life but you badly want to move forward to design a better life. OK, take a breather. You have landed upon right thing at a right time.
First things first, What are Habits?
Habits are rituals and behaviours that we are tuned into in our lives. We perform them subconsciously or automatically, with zero effort in our mind. But Habits can be negative or positive. It is your moral duty and obligation that you stay tuned to only positive and good habits and stay away from negative or bad habits. By the way, developing new habits is not everyone’s cup of tea, especially the positive and good ones – certainly not. It takes a lot of “work” to keep doing the things consistently and religiously and rigorously. And when something becomes routinely automatic, it gets associated with your subconscious and it no longer becomes work. After a while, it is just something that you do unknowingly. They represent you. They become part of you – your DNA. They start to live within you as an inseparable part of your life and vice-versa.
In 1950’s, Dr. Maxwell Maltz performed and experiment and concluded by saying, “it requires a minimum of about 21 days for an old mental image to dissolve and a new one to jell.” However developing a good habit may take longer than you think. Now, if you want to bring a change in your life then you need to evaluate your habits, stop bad habits and start creating new habits that will empower you to re-design a better life so that you can unleash the freedom. Little do we realise that Freedom is right under our nose. Yes, Freedom is very much within us- already.
When these habits become a significant part of your code of conduct, you empower yourself to unleash freedom to make greater impact, income and influence in this world. Here are the 7 codes of conduct.
- Fear-less: Fear is perhaps one of the most powerful feelings one can have. Fear controls us so much that we spend most of our lives living in fear. The fear of the unknown is too much to handle. Dale Carnegie said it very aptly, “Fear doesn’t exist anywhere except in the mind.” So ask yourself, what the hell are you afraid of?
Is it your fear of failing to quit your job or ask for salary raise?
Is it your fear of starting and failing in your business?
Is it your fear of what he/she may think about you after breaking up with him/her and walking out from an unhealthy, miserable relationship?
Is it your fear of being judged by your own near and dear ones when you express your likes and dislikes?
Being fearless doesn’t mean you’re not scared of anything. It only means you fear “less” about fear by putting the fear to the side and still doing it anyway. So, if you ever wanted to live the life of your dreams. Get that crap out of your mind, take a leap of faith and do what you always wanted to do. I know it might be scary but what’s the worst that could happen? You may be rejected. Your may fail. You may be judged. They may “No” on your face and you may even have to try something else. But did you know? No one ever died from hearing the word “No” or from failing at something. Trust me, this fear-less journey will be worth taking it because it brings much more fun, excitement and may be truly rewarding. Live FEAR-LESS.
- Resilience: It’s your ability to withstand adversity and bounce back and grow despite life’s downturn. People face all kinds of adversity in life. There are personal crises, such as illness, loss of a loved one, abuse, bullying, job loss, and financial instability. There is the shared reality of tragic events in the news, such as terrorist attacks, mass shootings, natural disasters, and of course the COVID-19 pandemic. People have to learn to cope with and work through very challenging life experiences.
We are all human beings. We are not robots or machines. We have emotions. We are vulnerable to face challenge, change, adversity, loss, threat or risk. Applying the code of resilience does not mean that you don’t experience stress or suffering. Being resilient also does not mean having mental toughness. Resilience means working through stress, pain and suffering, despite change, adversity, loss, threat or risk. You can easily tap into your resilience by changing your thoughts and behaviours.
You can build and cultivate the code of resilience through self-awareness, self-regulation, learning to adapt and cope up with any situation and by having deeper meaningful connections within your friend circle. Always remember to follow E+R=O principle. Hundreds of EVENTS will occur in your life, but only your RESPONSE will determine the OUTCOME in your life. What most people do when they don’t get the desired Outcome, they start blaming the Event (government, weather, people, etc) but fail to realise that only thing that will guarantee a better Outcome is by changing your Response. Events don’t change, our Response towards the Events has to change to manifest the change.
- Empathy: We must understand that we are not human beings on a spiritual journey. In fact, we all are spiritual beings on a human journey. The problem starts to grow in an exponential loop when we stop experiencing ourselves as LIFE. As we grow up, we end up experiencing ourselves as a bundle of thoughts, emotions, anxieties, opinions, belief systems, prejudices. The moment we take these stuff aside, we can start living a life full of empathy and compassion.
- Environment: Did you know that our environment is always greater than our will power, no matter what. So if you have been failing in your goals, don’t get harsh on yourself for lack of will power. Simply focus on re-designing your environment such that your success no longer requires your will power. Your Behaviour is a function of a Person and his Environment. B = f ( P + E). So align yourself and be surrounded with only those people where you feel you have a conducive environment to achieve your goals and you are exposed to the growth mindset at all times. Identify the cues. Envision the cues. Distracted by smartphone notifications? – leave it in another room or lock it inside the car in the garage. Feeling negative? unfollow the social media. Love to drink water and stay hydrated? – Always have a water bottle at your desk. SO before you start complaining about your will power of motivation (which you think you are lacking), take a break and list down all of the things that you can possible change within your own environment to make it very easy for your to carry out the actions that you know will help you get your goals.
- Discipline: The major key to living a good life is not in learning how to set goals. In spite of all the knowledge in the world, why do fall short of our objectives? It doesn’t matter how smart you are or how much you know, if you don’t use it. Better than knowledge is the applied knowledge. Apply and Observe your Results. Observe and Refine Your Actions. Refine and Apply Consistently. It takes discipline to overcome fear of failure or uncertainty. If you study people who are at the pinnacle of anything that they did, you will see a pattern or a trend that to get there they did not need motivation, they reached their goals with discipline of putting that idea into action. without any procrastination.
- Objectivism: You must identify your highest values to discover what is truly most important to you. I strongly recommend you to invest some time introspecting yourself and know your unique hierarchy of values using Dr Demartini’s Online Value Determination Tool. When I did this exercise, it was a breakthrough experience in itself and it was a no brainer for me to realise that my present purpose or mission will always be aligned with my present highest values. With this clarity, you can accelerate your journey and you will have an objectivist approach towards life. You will have a clear mission about what you want to do in your life.
- Minimalism: We live in a world where everyone is trying to get more and more of the same pie that their competitors are eyeing. We must understand that Less is always More. Materialistic Possessions, Modern Gadgets, etc won’t give you the true freedom and happiness. We have to understand that Happiness is not in getting what we like. Happiness is in liking what we get. You can live a rich life with less stuff. Ask yourself one thing right now. Can you simplify your life by decluttering your physical and emotional and digital space? Perhaps, 80% of things that you have are just sitting there serving no value to you. Just get rid of things that you don’t need and giveaway things to others which you may never use at all for the rest of your life. Be a Minimalist.
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